Tater Tot is one of Nathan's nicknames. He is growing up so fast. How is my baby boy almost 4 years old? He has always been our wild child. However, I'm starting to see a different side to his personality. One that is starting to concern me a little.
I have always been extremely shy. Really, shy isn't the right word. I'm socially awkward. No matter what I do to push myself out of it, I can revert right back in an instant. It is very frustrating. I have blogged about it before. Unless you have been in my shoes, you have no clue how it feels. And how truly frighting social situations can be for me.
Unfortunately I'm starting to fear that Nathan has inherited this. It truly hurts my heart. You can feel like such an outcast. People can think that you are "stuck up". When really inside you want nothing more than to break out of your shell and let people really get to know you. I never ever want either of my children to go through this.
Lately I have noticed him being very timid about certain situations. For instance, we went over to a friend's house the other day. I told Nathan to go ahead and ring the doorbell while I got Logan out of the car. He refused. He told me he would just wait for me. It is a friend that we see all the time. He is totally comfortable around them, usually. Another example, yesterday we were at a birthday party. It took him a long time to warm up to the other kids. When it was time to line up for cupcakes I had to intervene and help him ask for one.
I am actually tearing up as I write this. When I told John that I think Nathan has inherited my shy gene his reply was "Oh great!" That is people's response. Being shy is looked upon as a negative trait. I don't want Nathan to ever feel like an outcast bc of something out of his control. It's easy for others to say just get over it. It is not that easy.
I'm going to do some research and see if there is anything I can do to help him along. I want him to be comfortable in his own skin. Maybe once he goes to school and is around people more often, it will help. I am praying this is just a phase.
Has anyone else dealt with this situation? Any friendly advice for me?